Brett Guillaume
Janel Spencer
WRT 101S
5 November 2019
How My Parents’ Divorce Helped Me Prosper Into Who I Am Today
I grew up with both my parents in their dream house they bought out in Vail, Arizona. Vail is a very small community located outside of Tucson. I would describe Vail as a very quiet place—if something were to happen in the community, everyone would know about it. The house I grew up in, and still live in today, is four bedrooms, and is located on 2 acres of land in a very small neighborhood. Walking into the house from the front door, you are immediately greeted with the living room and a big arch dividing the living room from the kitchen. It is truly a masterpiece of a house.
I would describe my childhood as great. I am very fortunate to be where I am today, however, I wouldn’t be who I am today if it wasn’t for my parents’ divorce.
I remember the day like it was yesterday: my parents sat me down during the end of my summer break and explained to me that they were going to split up and eventually divorce. I remember my stomach shrinking in, realizing what my parents meant at the time. I was still fairly young—only 14 years old going into my freshman year of high school. I could remember them fighting almost every day after my mom arrived home from work. However, I couldn’t comprehend why they didn’t want to be together anymore. My father moved out of our house in vail up to our other house in Pinetop. I was left in Vail with my mom. However, it wasn’t always like that. My mom let her new boyfriend move into the house only weeks after my father moved out. My father is very vocal about his opinions and every night I would call him, and I remember never telling him what was happening at the house, because I didn’t want to light a fuse. Deep down in my heart I hoped my parents would get back together, but as the days progressed, my dreams crashed down in front of me, leaving me heartbroken.
As a result of my parents’ divorce, when I started my first semester of high school, I got terrible grades. I remember failing my economics class halfway through the semester and receiving D’s and C’s in most of my classes.
At the end of my first semester of high school, my mother moved out of our house in Vail and moved to Corona instead, allowing my father to move back into the house. I remember telling my dad that day, “I don’t want to go to school anymore…I just want to drop out.” I could see the disappointment and anger in my father’s face after I told him those words.
See, from my father’s previous marriage, he had three kids, a girl and two boys. All three of his kids dropped out of high school, and he was depending on me to be the first kid of his to complete high school. Granted, I didn’t think about how my father would feel about the situation. I immediately heard his raspy voice that he received from smoking cigarettes all his life, “You can’t do that,” he yells at me, “you can’t let what happened between me and your mother bother you for the rest of your life.” One thing leads to another, and as a result, I received an hour long lecture, and during the lecture I learned a lot, and soon realized that I have to complete school for me, no matter how hard it was going to be. My father really got my gears turning in my head, something that hadn’t happened in awhile, because I always thought of myself at not smart. School has always been hard for me because I have Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD). But I wasn’t going to let that and my parents divorce ruin my future. I had to do what was right for me, looking back on it now.
My second semester of high school, living with my father, I received mainly B’s and C’s, a huge improvement from my first semester. I remember feeling great towards school living with my father, he always kept me going, and I love him for that.
I always thought of Vail Academy as a college preppy school, so I decided to transfer to Empire High School after my first year at vail academy. I didn’t know it at the time, but this was one of the best decisions of my life. I meet tons of interesting people, and even saw a couple people that I went to middle school with. During my time at Empire, I received no grade below a B, and I finished my senior year with about a 3.5 gpa; something I never thought was possible from me. Also, during my time at Empire, I decided that I wanted to attend college. I could have went straight into a four year university, but I thought Pima Community College would be the better solution for me, giving me a feel for college.
I am really excited to say I made it through my parents divorce—something I thought that would never happen at the time.
My parents divorse has made me into the man I am today, and in a lot of ways I am thankful that they did get divorced, because it was better for them, and would help my develop skills I would never see as if it didn’t happen.
I see a lot of kids that have gone through what I’ve been through give up, because something they once thought was stable crashes down. But the truth is you can’t live like that, you have to move on and learn from your experiences and grow.
So I am telling you, the reader, that no matter what life throws at you, you will always overcome it, just like I did with a little bit of emotional support from both my father and mother.